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The Gottman Method
Relationships are at the centre of our lives, yet even the strongest ones can feel strained or disconnected at times.
The Gottman Method offers a grounded, research-based way to understand why that happens and how to rebuild closeness, trust, and care.
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Developed by Drs John and Julie Gottman, this method is based on more than 40 years of studying over thirty thousand couples. Their research has helped us understand what makes relationships thrive, what causes them to break down, and, most importantly, what helps couples repair and reconnect.
Understanding patterns and connection
Many couples who come to therapy care deeply about each other but find themselves stuck in repeating patterns. There might be tension or distance that grows quietly over time, unresolved hurt that lingers, or conversations that end in frustration instead of understanding. Gottman’s research helps couples recognise these dynamics, the moments where communication breaks down, or when someone stops raising concerns because “it’s just not worth it.”
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Bringing awareness to these patterns can be instantly clarifying. When couples start to see what’s really happening underneath the surface, it becomes easier to change how they relate, respond, and reconnect.
What the Gottam Method offers
The Gottman Method provides practical tools to shift communication, manage conflict, and strengthen emotional bonds. It teaches how to express concerns without criticism, how to repair after arguments, and how to rebuild trust when things feel strained. Many people recognise concepts like the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” which describe the common behaviours that can quietly erode a relationship, but what’s equally important is learning how to replace them with curiosity, care, and responsibility.
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Interestingly, Gottman’s work also shows that even happy, long-term couples experience conflict and bad days. The difference is that they return to a foundation of connection and fondness. When you feel valued, cared for, and understood by your partner, your relationship becomes more resilient and capable of weathering life’s inevitable challenges.
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Building Stronger Foundations
The Gottman Method isn’t about finding perfection. It’s about understanding what helps love last: small moments of appreciation, affection, and repair. It encourages openness, reflection, and honesty, helping partners strengthen their connection and navigate conflict with more compassion.
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At Collective Hope Therapy, this approach aligns with how Adam works which is relational, real, and human. Adam supports couples to communicate more clearly, reconnect more deeply, and rediscover the reasons they chose each other in the first place.
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​We provide in-person appointments at our therapy practice in Epping, Melbourne and online across Australia.
Contact Adam to learn more about the Gottam Method and if it's right for you.
