Internal Family Systems

Internal Family Systems, often called IFS, is based on the idea that every person is made up of many different parts.

Someone might have a confident part and another part that is full of self-doubt. They may have a calm part and a part that panics. There can be a caring and compassionate part and a part that is critical or harsh. All of these parts exist within the same person, even when they seem to contradict each other.

IFS focuses on getting to know these parts rather than fighting them or pushing them away. Each part has developed for a reason and has tried to protect the person in some way, even if the impact has become painful over time.

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Understanding the role of each part

An IFS approach starts with the belief that all parts belong and serve a function. Sometimes a part becomes stuck, overwhelmed, or pushed down. These parts often carry old pain or trauma and may show up in ways that are hurtful or confusing.

In therapy, the work involves noticing where these parts appear in daily life and understanding what they are trying to do. There is space for these parts to express how they see the world and what feels important to them. This process is gentle and curious rather than confronting.

When protective parts take over

For some people, a part may decide it is safer to never open up in friendships or relationships. Others may have a constant inner critic that shows up during difficult moments and makes life feel smaller or heavier. These parts can hold someone back from feeling good about themselves, trying new things, or engaging in activities that once brought joy.

IFS supports people to build a different relationship with these protective parts rather than trying to silence them. Over time, this can create more space, ease, and choice.

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Making peace with the inner world

IFS helps people understand that there are no bad parts. The goal is not to get rid of anything but to develop acceptance, self compassion, and clarity. As the relationship with internal parts becomes more understanding and less reactive, many people notice a shift in how they respond to thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that once felt overwhelming or shameful.

A collaborative and safe process

At Collective Hope Therapy, IFS is offered in a way that feels safe and free of judgement. The therapist does not act as the expert on someone’s inner world. Instead, they sit beside the person, helping them explore these parts at a pace that feels safe and supported.

IFS can be a powerful approach for people who want to understand themselves more fully, heal from past experiences, and create space for new ways of relating to themselves and others.

We provide in-person appointments at our therapy practice in Epping, Melbourne and online across Australia.